If you are in immediate danger, call 911. You can also contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. Use a safe device and clear your browser history if you share technology with a partner.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, often shortened to DVAM. The goal is simple. Raise awareness, support survivors of domestic violence, and strengthen local efforts to end domestic violence in Nashville, Brentwood, and Franklin. Intimate partner violence is more than physical violence. It can include controlling behavior, threats, isolation from friends and family, and strict control of money or transportation. Many people do not see the pattern at first. Careful attention to warning signs and quick access to support services can reduce risk and open a safer path forward.
How to recognize abuse
Abuse can look different across homes and relationships. Watch for these patterns.
- Controlling behavior around money, phones, passwords, transportation, or social media
- Monitoring movements, constant check-ins, or demands for proof of location
- Isolation from friends, work, school, or faith communities
- Put-downs, name calling, humiliation, or repeated threats
- Physical violence such as hitting, choking, restraining, or throwing objects
- Sexual pressure or coercion, including refusal to use protection
- Property damage, threats toward pets, or stalking
If several signs show up together, trust your instincts. Abuse left unchecked tends to escalate.
Safety planning at home and in the community
A simple plan can improve safety before you make big decisions. Share your story with one or two trusted adults who can respond quickly. Create a code word that signals you need help. Keep copies of IDs, financial records, and medications where you can reach them fast. Teach children how to call 911 and how to reach a safe neighbor without revealing your plan. Park your car facing out and keep a spare key with a friend if possible.
Use technology wisely. Change passwords from a safe device. Turn off location sharing on social apps. Consider a separate email or prepaid phone for contact with law enforcement, attorneys, or counselors. Document incidents with dates, photos, and screenshots, and store them somewhere your partner cannot access.
Working with law enforcement and your school or employer
Law enforcement can provide immediate protection, connect you to victim advocates, and explain local processes for protective orders. If you work outside the home, consider a quiet conversation with human resources about shifting schedules, escort to parking, or caller screening. For families, ask the school to list only approved adults for pick-up and to flag changes in dismissal plans. Clear communication creates a safer routine and reduces exposure to a domestic abuser.
Supporting survivors in your circle
Parents and caregivers, friends, neighbors, and coworkers play a critical role. Lead with calm, direct language. I am concerned about your safety. You do not deserve this. I will help you find support. Avoid blaming questions. Offer practical help such as transportation, childcare, a safe place to store documents, or a ride to court. Do not confront the abuser yourself. Focus on the survivor’s choices and pace. Respect confidentiality unless there is immediate risk to children or a life-threatening emergency.
Counseling options in Middle Tennessee
Therapy gives survivors a private place to sort facts from fear, build a safety plan, and begin healing. Individual counseling can address trauma symptoms such as anxiety, hypervigilance, sleep problems, and shame. Cognitive and trauma-focused approaches help stabilize mood, reduce panic, and restore a sense of control. Group work can reduce isolation and connect people to local resources. Couples counseling is not appropriate when there is ongoing abuse or coercion. Safety comes first. Once risk is addressed, some couples seek structured work in other settings, but that decision should be made with strong clinical guidance and clear safeguards.
Southeast Psych Nashville coordinates with community partners to strengthen safety. We help clients connect to support services such as shelters, legal aid, advocacy programs, and medical care. We also work with attorneys and victim advocates when documentation or court testimony is part of the process.
What recovery can look like
Progress often begins with small wins. Better sleep. Fewer panic spikes. A clear schedule for legal steps. A plan for finances that does not depend on the abuser. Confidence grows as safety improves. Emotional wellbeing follows when daily life becomes predictable again. Many survivors of domestic violence also rebuild social ties that were cut off during the relationship. That network makes long-term stability more likely.
How Nashville families can raise awareness
Use October to learn, share, and prepare. Attend a DVAM event. Post hotline information at work or in a community space. Invite a local advocate to speak with your faith group or parent organization. Teach teens how healthy relationships handle conflict and privacy. Small actions add up when a community repeats them across homes, schools, and workplaces.
Care close to home
Southeast Psych Nashville serves adults, teens, and families across Nashville, Brentwood, and Franklin. We offer in person therapy and telehealth across Tennessee. Our clinicians provide confidential counseling, safety planning, and coordination with community resources. You do not have to carry this alone. A private conversation can be the first step toward safety and recovery.
Take the next step
Trauma-informed counseling, safety planning, and coordination with local support services. Call 615-373-9955 to schedule or visit the website to get started.
